Now that I spend my days with a little diva 2-year old and her newborn brother, I find myself asking for patience ALL. THE. TIME. I will stop and just ask for it out loud… while the toddler dilly dallies down the stairs at sloth speed, the baby is wailing, and my anxiety is creeping upward because we are running late for something. Or while the toddler is having a screaming tantrum because she wants a different colored cup and it wakes the baby.
The point is that I try to ask for God’s patience throughout my day, even when I am exhausted, emotional and scatterbrained…really because I have no idea what else to do. It’s very simple—I genuinely say to him “please God give me patience right now.” I might repeat it a couple times…you know…just to make sure he hears me 😉 I mentally acknowledge that I can’t do this and I know he can. Do you ever have moments like these?
You might call them SOS moments…times of distress in which you can only send out a simple signal for help. If you’re in the process of recovering from an eating disorder, these distressed moments are probably happening all the time. So call out to him!
God loves when we come to him with anything, right? It’s important to remember that God is not a vending machine, but we don’t always have to recite a complex prayer or have a deep conversation with him. Think about your best friend–sometimes you talk for hours about hopes and fears, while other times you send a quick text with only a few words. In relationships, there is a mix communication methods.
I’ve learned to ask for what I believe will help me get THROUGH the struggle, as I know sometimes I cannot AVOID the struggle. Jesus walks WITH us; he doesn’t just grant us a wish from heaven so we can get out of a tough situation. For example, while I was giving birth, I asked God to “help me help me help me help me”. I didn’t ask him to make the pain go away because the pain was part of the process. Now, that’s not to say that he can’t make the struggle go away…he can do anything, including miraculous healing. I have just found myself asking for his fruits recently more than changing circumstances. I don’t think there are any “rules” about what to ask God for though.
What are some things that YOU can ask God for today specific to your eating disorder? When your emotions are heightened, your energy is low, your focus is non-existent, your anxiety is sky-high…what are some simple asks that you can easily call out?
SOS Prayer For Eating Disorder Situations:
- During a challenge meal
- After everyone has gone to bed, there’s a kitchen full of food, and you have strong cravings
- When your brain is bombarding you with judgments and lies
- When you’re having triggering flashbacks
- When you’re so uncomfortable with your body you want to crawl out of your skin
- During a difficult conversation
- Waiting for food at a restaurant
- After dessert
- At the pool
- At the grocery store
- When the number on the scale freaks you out
What to Pray For:
- Reduced anxiety
- His presence through the anxiety
- A support person
- Help me help me help me
It’s okay to ask for what you want. It’s okay to ask for it time and time again. If you don’t get what you want, that doesn’t mean your asking wasn’t “good enough” or “God didn’t hear you” or “he’s keeping something from you”. I believe those are lies. Keep asking.
What do you find yourself asking for the most during SOS moments? Please share in the comments!